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3 Confidence Building Activities to Try with Your Mentee

3 Confidence Building Activities to Try with Your Mentee

Mentorship includes advising, inspiring and supporting those who rely on your guidance, but the buck doesn’t stop there. There may be times when your mentee feels defeated, unsure or insecure. In those moments, you can help provide the boost of confidence they need to move forward with assurance. Here are three confidence building activities to try with your mentee.

1. The Past – Gratitude

When we put all our focus on constant progress, we tend to forget how far we’ve come. Attempting to learn new skills can rattle the confidence of even the most determined go-getters, but taking a stroll down memory lane can help. To bolster confidence, encourage your mentee to think of ten accomplishments they are proud of. Remind them that just as they conquered those giants, their greatest feats are yet to come.

2. The Present – Affirmations

Another way to build confidence is to affirm the positive. Encourage your mentee to form a daily ritual that includes a set of verbal affirmations. Before deciding what should be said, talk to your mentee about their insecurities and fears. Use the conversation’s revelations to counter those stumbling blocks in the affirmations you create. For example, if your mentee is insecure about realizing their full potential, a great affirmation may be, “I am qualified and capable of achieving all my goals and dreams through hard work and planning.” 

3. The Future – Speak It Into Existence

The last practice for confidence building will encourage your mentee to look toward the future and speak their success into existence. This activity is about manifesting good things in life by envisioning their presence. Sometimes we hold ourselves back or worsen our own anxieties by imagining our downfall instead of dwelling on the opposite. The poet Erin Hanson said it best, 

“And you ask ‘What if I fall?’

Oh but my darling,

What if you fly?”

It is completely normal to experience times of doubt, but you don’t have to let those periods of negativity hold your mentee back. With these three confidence building practices that address the past, present, and future, they will experience a shift in perspective from all angles. Your mentee can do anything they set their mind to, they just need the reminder.

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Easy Tricks To Help You Bid Goodbye To Procrastination

Easy Tricks To Help You Bid Goodbye To Procrastination

To begin, begin.
-William Wordsworth

Do you have a long list of things to do but never seem to find the time to actually do them? At home, school or work there are always a pile of things that you need or intend to do. Maybe you have been thinking of redesigning your kitchen. You probably need to rearrange the mountain of documents in your office but keep on putting it off. For what seemed like ages, you probably have a few personal goals to fulfill such as losing weight, exercising regularly or reading more but never get around to accomplishing it.

If your answer is yes, then you might be guilty of procrastination. It may be embarrassing to be caught red-handed with the practice of postponing things, but it is a common problem for a lot of people. A 2014 study done by an educational technology company revealed that 87% of 1500 students surveyed considered themselves procrastinators. The numbers prove that you are not alone. But, it is not quite a source of comfort as the same survey indicates that 45% of procrastinators agreed that the bad habit negatively affects their school performance. So if you want to achieve more in life, make an effort to bid goodbye to procrastination. It may feel like a struggle to change a bad habit but the outcome will be worth it. The following easy tips can help you win against procrastination!

Just do it.

If you want to finish something, then start somewhere. This statement may sound like a no-brainer but it is the concept behind a term in psychology which is the Zeigarnik effect. The term, which came from Russian psychiatrist Bluma Zeigarnik, implies that people are likely to finish or remember uncompleted rather than completed tasks. Apparently your brain will keep on urging you to work on tasks that you left hanging. So if you want to finally cross something off your list of goals, resolve to start doing it today!

Turn goals into specific actions.

A particular objective will remain just an objective if you are clueless as to how to accomplish it. In fact, lack of skills or knowledge to tackle a certain goal is one of the things that hinders people from achieving something. To make your objectives doable, it will be helpful if you list a series of specific steps or actions you need to do to complete a task. Breaking down a seemingly huge and impossible task will make them much more doable.

Think of the consequences.

Are you aware of all the benefits that you will enjoy from working on a goal but they fail to get you working on a project? Maybe you can try focusing on all the bad effects you will have to endure if you stubbornly keep on delaying the work. You may miss a lot of great opportunities or jeopardize the success of a huge project. Everybody wants to avoid bad situations, so it may be a more effective way to get you moving.

Since procrastination is a huge obstacle that hinders your success, you should strive to overcome it. Do not let your list remain just a list. Take action to beat procrastination today!

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3 Undeniable Reasons to Seek a Mentor

3 Undeniable Reasons to Seek a Mentor

Mentorship isn’t something that’s given freely; mentorship has to be earned. It has to be sought by the mentee and accepted by the mentor. Truth be told, almost everyone in the world could benefit from the help of a mentor. Why is it, then, that so few people seek out that mentoring relationship? Perhaps it’s because it’s difficult to find the right mentor—and even when you find the right mentor, you have to establish that relationship and build that dynamic up with them.

In any case, there are at least three undeniable reasons to seek a mentor.

You’re Able to Tap into Experience Beyond Your Years

This is not to say that you have to seek a mentor who’s significantly older than you are. Great mentors know no age. Still, having a mentor means being able to tap into experience beyond your years. It has nothing to do with how gray their hair is and everything to do with the ways in which their life experiences differ from yours.

You can always glean new and useful insights from whomever you choose as your mentor—whether they’re 25 or 75.

You Gain an Invaluable Sounding Board

Life can feel like a pretty solitary journey at times. Even when you’re married and have kids, there can still be moments where you feel totally alone—like no one could possibly understand or relate to the thoughts you’re having about your life’s trajectory.

In those moments, it is beyond valuable to have a sane sounding board. Mentors are fantastic for providing that kind of feedback and reassurance in perfect measure.  Mentors can help to keep you sane—and, more than that, keep you on track.

You Broaden Your Network and Support System

There is no such thing as a network or support system that’s too wide or too deep. When you take on a mentor in your life, you inherently broaden those aspects and, consequently, your prospects. But don’t let mentorship be about seeking out opportunities to get ahead. Let it be a way to support your goals and your dreams.

In the end, your support system and your network should help to propel you forward in more than just business-related ways. Mentors become more akin to family and close friends if you let them—and as such, they will always have your best holistic interests at heart. Doesn’t that sound undeniably great?

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Is There an Age Requirement to Be a Mentor?

Is There an Age Requirement to Be a Mentor?

When most people think of the mentor-mentee relationship, they envision an older, wizened sage gently leading a young, naïve protégé along in a mutual pursuit of the path to success. Scratch that. Forget everything you know about mentorship. Just because someone has lived longer, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they have more to offer a mentee. Along with that same train of thought, being older doesn’t mean that you’re too old for a mentor yourself.

Long story short, there’s absolutely no age requirement to be a mentor.

Are You Too Old for a Mentor?

This is a question that only you yourself can truly answer. No one else can answer this question for you, not even the people closest to you. Seeking out mentorship takes courage and it takes a recognition that your life isn’t where you want it to be.

There’s no age cut-off for changing your life around. You may feel as though you’ve already stumbled too far down one path to even entertain the idea of wandering down another. With the help of a mentor by your side, you don’t have to wander alone. And better yet, the two of you can forge a path all your own. You can cut through the thick brush of life and pave the way to success, no matter when or where you start. That’s the beauty of mentorship.

Are You Too Young to be a Mentor?

Just as people give sidelong glances to older people who seek out mentorship later in life, there are those that cast judgment on mentors who seem too young to give anyone advice. “Who is this kid? And what right does he think he has to tell me how to live my life?” You might catch yourself thinking. Or perhaps you’re the precocious youngster.

In any case, it’s a myth that you have to be a certain age to be able to dispense useful advice. In fact, some kids have ‘life’ better figured out than many people who’ve reached retirement age. The common adage, “It’s not about the years in your life; it’s about the life in your years,” holds true in this instance.

You don’t have to wizened to be wise.

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