History reveals that a marriage does not always guarantee a happily ever after. In fact, many people who lovingly and willingly said “I do” in front of their loved ones end up filing for divorce later on. They say marriage is a decision to stay together no matter what; but it is not advisable to stay married for the wrong reasons. If you decide to hold on to your relationship, you should also aim for a long-lasting marriage that is happy and fulfilling. With the ups and downs that come with married life, staying true to your vows will not always be easy. A little reminder, though, can keep you hanging on to your relationship even during the worst of times. For a stronger and happier relationship that will withstand time, remind yourself of the following every day:
Remember your spouse’s wonderful traits.
Familiarity breeds contempt. There may be days when your partner’s quirky ways or annoying habits can get under your skin. During these days, it will be helpful if you remind yourself of the reasons you fell in love with your spouse in the first place. Always remember that marriage is a promise to be patient and understanding with one other. You may not have married a perfect individual but there are surely wonderful traits that you like about your spouse. You will be a kinder and more loving spouse if you focus on the good traits of your partner. If you regularly tell your spouse about the things you love instead of hate about him or her, you can even encourage positive behavior.
Remember to stop making a mountain out of a molehill.
You may encounter a lot of problems in your relationship, but not all of them will be worth mulling over. To make your relationship less stressful and happier, learn to let go of the small stuff. Make it a habit to forgive each other for small mistakes and stop over-analyzing things. If you are upset over something about your marriage, take a minute to reflect if it is something that will matter several years from now. If it is not, it’s likely not worth losing sleep over. The saying, “choose your battles” is something you can definitely apply to your relationship.
Remember to take care of yourself.
Taking care of others does not mean neglecting or sacrificing your own needs. Don’t feel guilty if you need to take some time off for yourself. Even when you are in a relationship, you should continue letting yourself grow as an individual. By taking good care of yourself, you will be in a better position to care for others. But as you take care of your own needs and interests, don’t forget that you should also allow your partner to do the same.
Remember that a happy marriage is a conscious effort.
Couples who choose to separate have their reasons and no one can judge them for their decision. Still, no one can deny that It is still sad to see a relationship come to an end. Especially because there are things that couples could have done to prevent their relationship from breaking apart. You may have to talk about your problems, implement changes in your routines or even attend counselling. Just keep in mind that whatever trials you and your spouse may face, always believe and remember that you can work it out together. With conscious effort, two people in a relationship can ultimately strengthen their bond.
A wedding is a joyous and beautiful event because you get to witness two individuals profess unconditional love for each other for the rest of their lives. People who enter this lifelong commitment, though, cannot just give up on each other so easily. From the day they utter their vows, their daily actions and thoughts should help make their union happier and stronger.