3 Small Changes That Can Have a Huge Impact on Your Marriage

by | Marriage and Family

Marriage isn’t always a picnic; it certainly isn’t always a walk in the park, either. When the honeymoon has come to an end, both literally and metaphorically, it can be difficult to bounce back and remember what made you commit your life to that person in the first place.

Luckily, there are some small, easy changes that you can make that can have a huge impact on your marriage.

Plan At Least One Date Night Per Week

Speaking of picnics and walks in the park, there’s no better way to regain that honeymoon feeling than by planning at least one date night per week.

The dates don’t have to be extravagant. Five-star restaurants don’t have to be a part of the plan every week. You just have to set aside a night or an afternoon for you and your spouse to have alone time to reconnect. This may be difficult, especially if you have kids. But, it’s worth every penny you’ll spend on babysitters to be able to save the most precious asset of all: your relationship with your husband or wife.

Get Rid of Distractions During Alone Time

On the topic of alone time, it’s important to note that distractions should play no part in your date nights. As much as possible, try to unplug from your phone, computer, or tablet and enjoy being present in the moment.

Because modern life is so hectic, and technology makes everyone feel as though they must be connected at all times, it can understandably be a challenge to follow this rule. You don’t have to unplug all the time—just be conscious of the amount of screen time you’re indulging in around your spouse. Your husband or wife is the most important person in your life; treat them as such by turning off the TV and putting your phone away for at least an hour a day.

Remember That Your Spouse is On Your Team

Again, your husband or wife is the most important person in your life. You should treat them as though this were the truest statement you’ve ever heard. As the saying goes, “Happy wife, happy life.”

All too often, people take their husband or wife for granted. They forget that a spouse should be a best friend, and most people treat their best friend better than anyone else they know. Your spouse is on your team; you should always try to be on theirs.


  1. Katherine Hoxie

    Thank you for impacting our marriage in a huge way, and helping us overcome ourselves to become great together. Love you guys!

    • Collins

      Love that! You’re so right. They’re helping us compliment each other’s strengths and fill in for each other’s weaknesses

  2. Belinda

    Thank you Trevor and Lexi take time to write how important a relationship between a husband and wife is. My boyfriend and I have made peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and have had many picnics at various parks. Turning off our phones and unplugging the tv and even getting rid of it has helped us so much we actually talk about US not about a show that will never impact our future. Growing up and seeing my parents get divorced which in turn the whole family did because communication was shattered and surrounded by all my military families and seeing their divorce really has effected me when I was younger but seeing a couple that is all in committed in a relationship. I learned so much from you both but most importantly that Love is an action not a feeling! Thank you!

  3. Michelle Allison

    Thank you so much for all you have done for us and for our relationship, with our mentorship in our lives it wouldn’t we wouldn’t be we’re we are in life with a marriage that gets better and better everyday. I’m looking forward to the day that I am able to change people lives and help their marriage flourish just like the two of you have done in our lives.

  4. Jaimie heimer

    What a great article for any marriage. Whether it be a few months or many years. Incredible article. You two are such an amazing inspiration for my husband and I.

  5. Verryn Harper

    All that I can say is wow!! I’m so very greatful for the example Trevor and Lexi set for this organization. They have impacted my life in so many ways and I can only say Thank You!!!

  6. Julia R Wikaryasz

    These are some great tips! I think getting rid of distractions is a hard one for our generation. I don’t know the amount of couples I see sitting in a restaurant that both are on their phones doing separate things. I know that being aware of this has changed things for my spouse and I. Our communication is better and date night is way more fun! Thanks for these. I’m totally sharing them on my facebook.

  7. Cameron Mahr

    These are so simple and at the same time so full of impact! My wife and I are excited to implement these into our daily lives!

  8. Adrian Gonzalez

    Thank you Trevor and Lexi for all that you have done for my wife and I. I can honestly say that we owe our marriage to you two! We were headed downhill fast towards seperation and having to raise our daughter in a broken home prior to meeting you. Then because of the amazing example you two set with you own marriage and being willing to sit with/help us, we are back on track. Thank you Trevor and Lexi!

  9. Amanda

    So Good!
    Thank you Trevor and Lexi for your mentorship in life. You both set such an amazing example by truly living out your values, especially in this area!

  10. Cyndee Fleck

    Thank you so much for the example you both set and the mentorship you provide. I’m so excited to keep learning and growing, living intentionally to reach my goal of FREEDOM !!!

  11. Rachelle Aiwohi-Pai

    Thank you Trevor and Lexi for your amazing example! Applying everything you have taught us has made the foundation of our marriage so much stronger. Forever grateful and we love you.

  12. Phillip Nix

    Thank you for not just talking about how to have an awesome marriage, but instead showing us what that actually looks like and teaching us how to have the same results in our own lives!

  13. Yvonne Fronczak

    Always such a beautiful example to us! Thank you for this blog, there is definitely something I can learn from this to grow our marriage even stronger!!! Love you!!

  14. Garth and Megan

    It is so easy to forget your spouse is on your side. Thank you for being a great example of what a healthy marriage looks like. We are incredible grateful to know you!

  15. Erin

    Where before my husband and I knew through stubbornness that our marriage would last, we now know with confidence our marrige will not only last but thrive and be a joy! That is the power of Trevor and Lexi’s mentorship. Love you both!

  16. Bonnie Scialabba

    This is an incredible post! I must say that prior to earning mentorship, my husband and I would have said we had a great marriage. But that was just because all we had to compare it with we’re both of our divorced parents and friends whose marriages were on the rocks! However, when we got around Trevor and Lexi, they showed us what a real marriage looked like and were willing to help us get there. Since earning mentorship our marriage and every aspect of life has been enriched and changed forever! Thank you guys for your constant love and support, we love you!!!

  17. Tessa Rodriguez

    Thank you! Your words have impacted how I approach my relationship – starting with improving myself and what I bring to the commitment. Forever grateful ♡

  18. Brandee Rivera

    This is powerful! We have a lot to work on still but we are so thankful to be a part of something as wonderful as this opportunity. We can’t wait for the future and to see what it holds! Thank you guys for everything and being the amazing couple you are.

  19. Falon C

    Thank you for not only attending our wedding, but also being a part of our marriage!

  20. Jordon K

    Nothing is stronger than a couple unified going the same direction! Thank you for helping us in ALL areas of life!

  21. John Moe

    THANKS TREVOR AND LEXI…your dad and mom have helped me believe and build a leadership team across the nation and around the world….amazing entrepreneurs you and your family are.